#Too movement: offensive, and wrongly pitting people against each other

Tiana Meador

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Sexual assault is no joke- it can affect anyone at any given time. However, with the rise of the #MeToo movement, we are seeing a growing rate of counter movements, but one in particular, the #HimToo movement is taking it too far.

With the controversial Brett Kavanaugh getting confirmed to Supreme Court, women and men around the nation have been spreading the hashtag #MeToo to fight for believing women in the case of sexual assault. This has brought alarm throughout the conservative-leaning community in regards to due process. However, the memes of twitter are raging, and have brought forth this new, nasty hashtag, that although just as just as #MeToo, it is fostering an environment of competition, over something that is not questionable.

Ana North, writer for Vox said, “The tweet tapped into a larger narrative emerging alongside #MeToo: the notion that false allegations are rampant. Trump has fed this narrative for months, tweeting in February, “People’s lives are being shattered and destroyed by a mere allegation. Some are true and some are false. Some are old and some are new. There is no recovery for someone falsely accused — life and career are gone. Is there no such thing any longer as Due Process?”

Sure, North has a point. There are wrong accusations, believe it or not. Accusations destroy lives, believe it or not.

However, a trending social media tag online is not the way to battle for a cause, in fact, this could be highly offensive to those survivors- male or female. 

As stated by RAINN, “As of 1998, 2.78 million men in the U.S. had been victims of attempted or completed rape,” however, “As of 1998, an estimated 17.7 million American women had been victims of attempted or completed rape.”

Although old statistics, this gives rise to the disparity between male and female- however, that does not mean we should forget that men can be the victims as well.

Fighting an inclusive movement with a hashtag to simply make a point about false accusations disregards the fact that not all men are non-victims- you can not classify them as all the same.

“Presidential counselor Kellyanne Conway said on Sunday that during the Kavanaugh confirmation fight, women in America saw a man suffering from ‘Political character assassination, and also we looked up at him and saw possibly our husbands, our sons, our cousins, our coworkers, our brothers,” said North.

Where Conway is right is that yes accusations can happen, sure. But what about vice versa? Can a man not accuse a woman? Newsflash, yes they can. Yes the vice versa situation can happen.This is not a fight; it is a matter of fact.

Using social media to argue who is right when it pertains to sexual assault is by far what I consider to be, one of the most offensive things.

Victims may or may not want to be apart of a movement, but personally, I would not want to be part of a movement that seems to be shaming their opposite-gender counterpart.

And when I say that, I mean both #MeToo and #HimToo. They both suck. Polarity of social medias in this day of age has blown up any small form of a positive gesture into a fight against one party, then the other party somehow bends their angle to have a counter. 

Let’s move on.

Doyin Richards, critic of the #HimToo movement as well said, “This #HimToo nonsense needs to stop before it’s given enough oxygen to fully ramp up,” in an article for The Huffington Post.

Although Doyin has points in his article that do not seem so fair, following this statement, he is right. This nasty social media counter argument is not correct in the context- hey far right, please stop polarizing sexual assault into a political argument.